Every year we collectively set out to create new habits for ourselves, but we don’t think of them as habits, we call them New Year’s resolutions - and most of the time we don’t think about our resolutions until after all the presents are open, we are stuffed full of carbs and want to throw up if we hear Mariah Carey sing jingle bells rock one more time. Our minds are overwhelmed and looking for an escape only to be cramped with thoughts of “ ugh, I need a workout plan.” “I should really read more.” “I need to start a savings”. This is not a healthy place to start a habit.
If you google how long it takes to create a new habit it says 21 days, but an article from James Clear in HuffPost post states that “on average, it takes more than two months before a new behavior becomes automatic- that's 66 days to be exact. And how long it takes a new habit to form can vary widely depending on the behavior, the person, and the circumstances.”
In other words, if you want to set your expectation appropriately, the truth is it most likely will take you 2 - 8 months to build a new habit! With that said, November is the perfect month to at least start to plant the seeds of what you want! Here is why November is also the perfect month to start.
Your thoughts are aligned with giving - The holidays are approaching with giving gifts, sharing food, and spending time with others is a huge part of the energy in November. You are more in a space to think about what really makes you happy. You are more mentally prepared to allow yourself to think and plant the seeds of ideas. You are able to do the reaching for the best gym, teaches classes, books, etc. You are planting the seeds!
You are mentally prepared - After Christmas, we have 5 limbo days until the New Year. Our minds are detoxing from the overdose of family, friends, and food. We don’t have much mental space to really search deeply for what we really want to create this next year within ourselves. If we have already planted the seeds, we are more likely to feel extra ready to tackle those ideas
Takes the pressure off - Also with having the holidays and allowing yourself to take a break and “let go” of your resolutions will allow them to not feel so pressured. If you start your new habit in November than take a week off at Thanksgiving, you’re more likely to want to jump back into it in the begin of December. When you come back to your resolution/goal/habit or project you can feel more inspired! You will have created a spark to enjoy it more. It all about creating your habit into a peak experience.
Use January’s energy to finish it off - Since January’s energy will be extra magical with everyone trying to start new healthy habits, you will be able to go into the next 30 days to create that habit. You will have felt comfortable with it and want to finish strong with everyone else who is on the “New Year’s resolution kick.” The time February rolls on in, you have completed your goal and either continue to adapt it or celebrate in honor of completing a goal.